Success starts in the mind. Even when it comes to a zero-effort task like playing the lottery, you have to be hopeful enough to buy a lottery ticket in the first place. But a hopeful mindset is only half the equation for success. The other half consists of being honest with yourself about the fact that you still have room to grow. In an article for HuffPost, Patricia Thompson, PhD outlines four misguided beliefs that can stop you from reaching your full potential:
- You believe that you don’t have anything to work on.
- You are being black and white in your thinking.
- You think you don’t have the time.
- You believe you can’t change.
If you think you have no skills to work on, you are either delusional or just not thinking big enough. After all, self-improvement does not even have to involve a weakness; you could just focus on getting better at something you already consider a strength. If you struggle to pick out the right skill to develop though, you can always ask your boss, mentor, or friend for ideas.
It could be that you avoid developing yourself out of a fear of “becoming something you’re not.” This is an unrealistic fear though. People who are bad at being assertive are probably not going to forget how to be nice once they have taken time to develop assertiveness. This is the same as women who are afraid to lift weights because they do not want to become She-Hulk—it is not likely to happen.
The third belief—thinking you have no time—is more valid. It is hard to find time, which is why Thompson says the best strategy is to incorporate personal development into your workflow:
For example, if you could stand to be more assertive, reading a book on the topic would likely help you. However, at some point, you will actually need to put your learning into practice. And, where better to do so than in meetings that you are already attending as part of your job? Or, if you need to get better at prioritizing, you could start by taking time at the beginning of each work week to look ahead and make a list of the most important things to get done.
If you want to change, it is within your power to do so. Some changes are easier than others, but the length of the race is not so important as long as there is a still finish line at the end of it.
You can view the original article here: http://www.huffingtonpost.com/patricia-thompson-phd/4-beliefs-that-prevent-yo_b_9473640.html